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    • Foundational Principles
      24:29
      ACISL-Foundational Prinicples - HD 720p
    • Foundation 1: Self Respect
      52:37
      ACISL Module 1 Icon Respect
    • Foundation 2: Self Care
      41:36
      ACISL Module 2 Icon Care
    • Foundation 3: Self Acceptance
      1:17:27
      ACISL Module 3 Icon Acceptance
    • Foundation 4: Self Trust
      49:10
      ACISL Module 4 Icon Trust
    • Foundation 5: Self Actualization
      1:04:47
      ACISL Module 5 Icon Actualization
    • Purple Rain: Healing to Release Guilt and Shame
      16:29
      ACISL Week 1 Meditation to Release Guilt and Shame - HD 720p
    • Your Mystical Magical Garden of Life
      17:09
      Week 2 - Garden of Life - HD 720p
    • The Heart Sutra: Return to Wholeness
      18:28
      ACISL Week 3 - Acceptance - Healing - The Heart Sutra
    • Release Doubt, Worry, Anxiety & Fear
      18:10
      ACISL Week 4 - Meditation - Release Doubt Worry & Fear
    • I Am: The Soul Connection
      19:22
      ACISL Week 5 - Self Actualization - Meditation - I AM The Soul Connection
    • Meditation for Self Forgiveness
      17:36
      Forgive Yourself Track Icon
    • The Self Love Healing Journey
      49:26
      ACISL Self Love Healing
    • Self Love Book Club: A Supplemental Reading List
    • Self Care: Supplements to Give Your Body Everything it Needs
    • Self Care: What Kind of Rest Do You Need?
      24:32
      ACISL-Supplemental-Different Kinds of Rest
    • Self Acceptance: Disappointment (Guilt's little cousin and the 100-year journey)
      36:39
      ACILS - Supplemental - Disappointment
    • How to Give Yourself a FREE Day
      12:21
      How to have a FREE day...
    • Morning Pages - aka How to Do a Proper Brain Dump
      11:33
      Morning Pages - Bonus Training
    • 7 Rules for Self Love in Family Dynamics
      14:23
      ACISL Supplemental- 7 Rules for Self Love in Family Dynamics
    • Healing Body Shame
      9:53
      ACISL Supplemental- Healing Body Shame
    • Divinity in Disguise
      2:51
    • Andy's Creed
      2:33
    • Permission slips
      2:43
    • Drawstrings
      1:57
    • Simplified
      2:51
    • The Employee
      3:10
    • Fast-Talking Your Way Out of Feeling
      2:32
    • Little Lies
      2:28
    • The special thing
      3:03
    • Rush Hour
      3:19
    • Time Bending, Part 1
      3:25
    • Time Bending, Part 2
      2:51
    • Tolerance
      2:45
    • A Friendly PSA
      2:34
    • Upgrading Vices
      3:16
    • Exactly as you are
      2:26
    • The Floodgates
      4:03
    • Much much worse?
      2:33
    • Fraudulent
      2:39
    • Prove it
      3:25
    • Coin Toss
      2:07
    • Ridikulus
      2:26
    • Always perfectly placed
      4:07
    • One thing you can do without
      3:27
    • About Ruby
      2:19
    • Love Embodied
      3:42
    • Don't be an "a-hole"
      3:01
    • Doubtable
      2:24
    • Going on a safari?
      2:27
    • Just what I needed...
      2:26
    • Singing Birds
      2:24
    • Cosmic Deadline?
      2:54
    • It gets worse...
      3:42
    • Smoke 'em if ya got 'em
      2:37
    • #NotLosing
      2:34
    • Naked
      2:38
    • Abou Ben Adem
      2:25
    • Opting In
      2:56
    • The Daffodils
      3:14
    • With the winds at your back...
      2:24
    • The Lock and the Key
      4:06
    • The Confessional
      2:27
    • Maxing Out, Insanity Part 1
      3:43
    • The problem is incremental, Insanity Part 2
      2:23
    • The Olive Tree
      3:28
    • Falling Out
      1:50
    • Falling Down
      2:20
    • Falling Forward
      3:01
    • Best. Decision. EVER!
      2:09
    • Indebted
      4:20
    • iOS Updates
      3:37
    • The Cardinal Sin
      3:00
    • Empathy and the Mystery of the World
      2:05
    • Unity
      2:08
    • The Mountain, the Squirrel, and You
      2:37
    • Brain Training
    • Catastrification
      3:06
    • Been there, done that
      3:07
    • From the edge...
      2:33
    • Week 1: June 2, 2022
      1:09:22
      ACISL Group Call 06-02-2022
    • Week 2: June 9, 2022
      1:27:38
      ACISL Group Call- 06-09-2022
    • Week 3: June 16, 2022
      1:05:54
      ACISL Group Call 06-16-2022
    • Week 4: July 7, 2022
      1:11:46
      ACISL Group Call 07-07-2022
    • Week 5: July 14, 2022
      1:10:38
      ACISL - Group Call 07-14-2022
    • Week 6: July 21, 2022
      58:09
      ACISL Group Call - 07-21-2022
    • Week 2: February 3, 2022
      1:22:46
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 2
    • Week 3: February 10, 2022
      1:12:33
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 3
    • Week 4: February 24, 2022
      1:14:59
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 5 Trust
    • Week 5: March 3, 2022
      1:12:47
      ACISL Winter 2022 Week 5 Self Actualization - Disappointment
    • Week 6: March 10, 2022
      1:09:07
      ACISL Winter 2022 Bonus Week
    • August 9, 2021
      1:18:58
      ACISL-Week 1-August 9-2021
    • August 16, 2021
      1:24:07
      ACISL-Week-2-August16-2021
    • August 23, 2021
      1:22:50
      ACISL-LIve Call August 22, 2021
    • August 30, 2021
      1:38:50
      ACISL-Live Call August 30 2021
    • September 13, 2021
      1:29:24
      ACISL-09-13-2021-Module 5
    • September 20, 2021
      56:38
      ACISL-09-20-2021-Wrap-up
    • March 9, 2021
      1:33:50
      ACILS Week 1 Complete Recording
    • March 16, 2021
      1:34:44
      A Course In Self Love - Week 2 - Self Care - Complete Recording
    • March 23, 2021
      1:38:09
      ACISL Week 3 - Complete Recording
    • March 30, 2021
      1:36:40
      ACISL Week 4 - Complete Recording
    • April 6, 2021
      1:23:57
      ACISL Week 5 - QandA
    • April 13, 2021
      1:37:45
      ACILS Week 5 - Self Actualization - Complete Recording

The Peace Treaty: Your Prerequisite for Self Love

Before we can begin to grow and develop Self Love, there is one simple step that cannot be skipped. It's so obvious that most people never even consider it. Or they give it only a passing glance and skip on to the "juicier" bits. 

Skipping this sets up a shoddy foundation for future growth. Unless this is done properly, you wind up with an ad hock armistice, which is basically saying, "I'm too beat down to continue, so I'm going to agree to put my arms down until I'm strong enough to fight again. And then it's ON." You've probably done this before by mistake. We're not doing that again...

What could be so important, you ask? 

Making peace. 

I don't mean for a moment. I mean a binding agreement for lasting peace and a commitment to complete reconciliation. Throughout this course we're going to explore many aspects of reconciling our relationship with ourselves, but unless we decide for peace and commit to it fully right from the get go, we'll never get past the surface layers. 

How do we do this? 

With a peace treaty, of course! 

If you're here right now, investing your time, effort, energy, and money into a course on Self Love, then t's not a stretch to assume that you are experiencing some level conflict within yourself. 

Maybe it's little battles that come up just in time to sabotage your happiness, break connection, or pull the rug out from your best efforts toward success. 

Maybe it's an ongoing campaign waged against the dark and scary parts of you that you just can't bare to look at and definitely don't want anyone to see. Like trench warfare, constant pressure to break the other side in a war of attrition. 

Or it could be all-out-no-holds-barred guerilla warfare on every aspect of your being. Constant gunfire and vitriol in your head in a brutal fight to the death. Booby traps and snipers everywhere, without a modicum of safety to be found. 

Whatever it is. It stops today. 

Right. Now.

You're going to write and sign a peace treaty with yourself. 

You can write it in any way you want, formally or informally (there is a more formal example for you to download here and below on this page). 

Your peace treaty needs to include the following...

  • A declaration of peace

  • A list of grievances- big and small. They all matter. You will very likely have more than listed on the example document. 

  • An absolute commitment to keeping the peace. 

  • Measures to be taken should this peace be broken. Spoiler alert: it probably will...

  • The date and your signature.

Some helpful tips...

  1. Handwrite it. It's more personal that way. 

  2. Don't worry about getting it perfect. Think of this as a living document. You're going to revisit and revise it often, especially at first. 

  3. Don't skip it or just think it up in your head. Write it out, sign it and date it. 

  4. Don't hold back. The more fully you commit yourself the more powerful the peace you'll create, and the easier every other step after this will be, and believe me there are some doozys on the way...

If it's helpful for you to share yours with the group, you can attach it to a comment below. No pressure though. The important thing is that you do this for YOU, and the sooner the better. 

Here's to lasting peace. 

Nick